love me better app ~

love me better app ~

We’ve all got big hearts and bad memories.

Let’s fix that together.

So, my brain, like many of ours, loves systems and struggles with executive functioning.

Lately, I’ve been dreaming up an app to help us navigate the real challenges of community,  especially when it’s hard to ask for help, hard to know what to offer, hard to remember what our people need (or what we need ourselves).

The app is Love Me Better (LMB), and our team is designing it as an extension of our brain (with more consistent functioning) for connection, care, and remembering the little things that make relationships thrive.

This app will:

✔️ Let us easily share how you want to be loved/supported

✔️ Let our friends share their needs with us, no guessing

✔️ Create a gentle Nudge system to our people, for reaching out without overthinking the text

✔️ Create an interactive Archive of Self, reminders for when we’re lost in feelings or low spoons.

✔️ Offer shortcuts to access our own tools — YOUR coping strategies, your favorite things, your flowchart of ideas to ease hard moments.

 ✔️ Remove the mind-reading, guessing about the details that help relationships thrive, like love languages, accessibility asks, favorite things.

There would be tiered privacy preferences. You could input & update your own data about your dietary restrictions & preferences and sensory needs for your Inner Circle, but your Extended Friendlist would just see your top favorite colors, foods, restaurants.  So, each person’s profile would have the information they provide you PLUS a note section (private to you) where you could store birthday present ideas, important anniversaries, etc. 

Imagine with me, if you will -

  • You want to surprise Aisha with a treat but can’t remember her dietary stuff. Just open LMB, check her profile, done.

  • You’re planning a dinner party. Select your six guests from your friend list & LMB populates the combined dietary and sensory preferences list for you.

  • You’re struggling, can’t find words to ask for help. Two clicks send an LMB push to your Inner Circle with pre-set options like “send memes” or “text when you can.” No (over)thinking, just quick connection.

  • You want to support your bestie, but don’t want to bother them to ask how. You open their LMB profile, see their “Help I’d Love to Receive” section, and offer two that already work for you. No energy lost to wondering, guessing.

The Bigger Vision

Many of us, when we’re in crisis, overwhelmed, in luteal, or just tired, lose access to our communication tools, self-care tools. LMB lets us preload that work (with the help of friends, partners, therapists) when we’re grounded, so Future Us doesn’t have to start from scratch. It’s not a psychology app full of someone else’s best ideas. This is customized, for you, by you (and your people). 

Reminders

Reminders from Past You for when you’re low spoons (“You forget meds when stressed, babe, and things feel urgent when they’re not. You have time.”)

Internal, searchable journal with option for “bring this to therapy” push reminders

Personal Lists<

A customizable menu of your favorite memes, pet pics, love notes from your people, & reminders for likely needs

A guided decision-making tool: “Does this align with your values? Your goals?”

Personal lists of “Help I’d love to receive” for easy sharing.

Long-term

Hopefully symptom tracking & medication history, all easily exportable for providers

We need your help!

We need your help!

So yeah, we’ve got the concept, community feedback is rolling in, and we’re starting to build the Kickstarter.

What we need? You. We cannot design this alone; factually impossible and that would just be contrary to the spirit of LMB. 

Specifically, we need a programmer — ideally someone who gets the neurodivergent struggle and cares about community tech — to help build (what we have learned is called) a Minimum Viable Product. This will allow me to design/start the Kickstarter. (This is NOT gonna be a freakin’ surveillance app. It’ll be a co-built tool rooted in autonomy, consent, and community care.)

If you’re not a programmer - we’d still love to connect. You can fill out this form to:
✔️ Get project updates
✔️ Offer skills (marketing, design, accessibility, or UX)
✔️ Share ideas, feedback, hopes & dreams

Loving each other can be easier <3 let’s do it together.